Do you feel that your experience is not understood or accepted? Are you looking for an empathetic witness?
In order to not isolate from the world when on the rollercoaster of infertility, the world needs to feel like a safe place to stay connected and be vulnerable. What’s needed is a community that believes and validates your experience, that sees what you are going through and does not offer platitudes or meet the pain with awkward silence.
Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m here to listen, validate and support you during this difficult time. You are not alone.
What is Grief Nova?
Grief Nova is a safe and confidential space that provides knowledgeable guidance and support to people who are experiencing pregnancy loss, infertility, or are now childless after infertility.
You may have found yourself here because you have had a recent loss in your life, or you are struggling to find the right support. Regardless, you’ve come to the right place. You’ve landed into a space that just gets it. I can see you and your grief in its whole.
At Grief Nova, I specifically aim to help you process your loss(es) and provide you with appropriate resources to help you navigate your healing process.
“I firmly believe that we need an empathetic witness to support us during, and after loss in order to begin healing.”
- Sarah Young
Testimonial
It’s been such a privilege getting to know Sarah over the years. Her unique lens will without a doubt help people navigate miscarriage and loss with the understanding and empathy they truly need. Her sympathetic heart and years of experience navigating this reality, allow for deep compassion and support. Her beautiful spirit will be a welcomed addition to any person or family.
Chiemi Rajamahendran
Miss.Conception Coach
When navigating the complicated and heart-wrenching journey of infertility, miscarriage, and especially being childless after loss, finding a beacon of support and understanding is invaluable. Sarah has been that beacon for so many people as she leads our Childless After Loss support group, guiding with compassion, empathy, and invaluable knowledge. Her ability to create a safe, welcoming space where all feelings are validated and every member feels heard is appreciated each and every week plus her personal journey through similar challenges enriches her guidance, making Sarah not just a moderator but a fellow member of the infertility and loss community.
Arden Cartrette
Founder of The Miscarriage Doula LLC
Navigating Unsolicited Advice & Uncomfortable Situations
Around Your Infertility During The Holidays…
There are likely big feelings around how you are coping with your infertility and loss.
You don’t have to smooth over the tension in your family. You can choose not to engage their conflicts and judgements especially around your struggle. You certainly can stop putting everyone’s feelings above your own.
Do what is best for your mental health, if you go, explore setting starts and stops. And if you don’t feel up to it, say no.
Protect your heart.
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REPEAT AFTER ME!
If you cannot understand why I’m struggling ... please consider your life without your children.
Not a choice to not have children, but no choice. And consider how you’d cope and survive inside that.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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“I feel like my partner and I are experiencing this completely differently. They’ve been here but we feel so disconnected. Why aren’t they as sad as me? All they do is try to fix me or pull me into future plans that I can’t even imagine right now.”
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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The fear & anxiety of anticipating the possibility of someone announcing a pregnancy over the holidays is real.
Protect your heart.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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You can’t set a boundary to change how others speak or act towards your infertility.
You can only get a boundary on what kind of actions and words you’ll stick around for.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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SELF-COMPASSION IS THE SUM OF 3 PARTS:
Mindfulness
(being present to your thoughts/feelings/ circumstances
Connectedness
(Allowing yourself to connect to humanity + remembering that everyone experiences suffering)
Self-kindness
(Expressing love + compassion toward yourself)
EACH IS NECESSARY FOR SELF-COMPASSION.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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There is a lot of pressure to be “thankful for what you do have”, especially today.
The issue is that platitude is always full of shame. We can all acknowledge what we are thankful for, but you sure as heck don’t deserve to be met with the “bright side” of your pain, there is not one.
Another year has passed, and you’re still sitting around a table wondering if you’re going to be a mom. There is no reality where being thankful overrides your pain and struggle.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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REPEAT AFTER ME!
Another year, another gathering. Still not a mom. Still on the outside, looking in.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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“Are you feeling better?”
No, I am not feeling “better”. I don’t have a cold. I don’t need to feel better. I need to feel supported, to be seen, to be heard. Please stop trying to fix my pain because you are so uncomfortable with my reality.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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The desire to show up for others while wanting to protect your own emotional well-being is incredibly common this time of year.
During a season when there is a lot of uncertainty and inconsistency (more anxiety), having a plan is a way to hold space for yourself and honor your needs.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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Feeling Anxious & Scared are very common feelings when you are grieving … what else do you feel?
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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“I DON’T FEEL SAFE ...”
Being able to feel sate with other people is probably the most important aspect of infertility mental health.
Who are your people? Who sees you? Who can sit in your pain? Who shows up?
These can be people you’ve known forever or new folks.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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It’s really hard watching everyone else’s life move forward when you feel stuck in the same spot, where infertility grief has left you.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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REPEAT AFTER ME!
The hardest part of infertility is the isolation.
No one sees me and I feel like I am broken.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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“We feel like we’re walking on eggshells around you.”
I’ll never forget it. Finally, they said it. The years of awkwardness, the distance, the exclusion, the judgy comments. My infertility had not only destroyed me but also ruined so many relationships.
They were so uncomfortable with my grief and pain. Did they ever consider how uncomfortable I am in this?
Nothing has been the same since.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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You are going through one of life’s hardest journeys.
Please be kind to yourself. You deserve space to feel however you feel and to be seen and heard.
Infertility is not your fault.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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You have nothing to feel shame for. This is not your fault. You get to decide who gets to hear your heart.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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A lot of people have a lot of judgment towards those struggling to have a baby. There is often a push to be positive, or we’re met with “everyone has problems” or “there’s so much more to life than kids” or hostility because we cannot show up the way we used to.
Which is really privileged because these are the same people whose whole life revolves around their kids.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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How the invisibility of infertility grief may attect you …
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
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REPEAT AFTER ME!
I deserve the same love, admiration and support as a mom of living children. My struggle is not a sign that I am less than ... the only difterence between us is that my body is not working as expected. The desire, the love, the empathy it’s all the same as yours.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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“It’s really interesting to me that others think I’m selfish or take it personally that I’m not able to show up for their pregnancy and babies. But they’ve been completely absent for my entire struggle.”
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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You don’t need to prove how awful infertility is to anyone, ever.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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Reminders to help you cope with losing friendships inside infertility …
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
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Less vs. More …
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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The grief of infertility is often overlooked because it doesn’t fit into the usual categories of loss.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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REPEAT AFTER ME!
It’s okay to protect my heart and exit conversations about babies and kids.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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“I didn’t tell you I was pregnant because I didn’t want to upset you.”
Just so you know, hiding it makes me feel
even worse.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
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Affirmations for holding infertility grief…
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
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Infertility anxiety often indicates that emotions/feelings associated with grief have been suppressed. It’s important to check in with yourself often and try to have compassion for all you have and are going through. This is as hard as it feels.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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Things to forgive yourself for during your journey…
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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Example of inappropriate questioning...
Q: Do you have kids?
Q: Why not?
Q: You really don’t want kids?
Q: Your husband is okay with that?
Uncomfortable response to your reality ...
- You’d be such a good mom tho ...
- You’re missing out on the greatest joy of life.
- I can’t imagine life without kids ...
- It’ll happen, I just know it.
All of this is invasive, full of shame and projection. You don’t need to explain or defend your situation. You know what you’re going through, honor that and protect your heart, however you need to.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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REPEAT AFTER ME!
It’s not my responsibility to teach others how to empathize with my infertility and loss.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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“You wouldn’t understand, you don’t have kids.”
Actually, I fully understand, until I have kids, I will never be included in the conversations and life the way that you are, because the majority of fertile people believe that empathy and understanding comes from having a child. In reality, trauma, loss and deep grief teach us more about empathy and understanding more than anything else.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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Things no one tells you about infertility grief...
Anniversaries, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, birthdays etc. can be really
emotionally charged.
• You’ll likely never stop wondering what life would’ve been like and what they’d be like.
•Life moves forward but the everyday mundane things can be hardest (grocery
shopping for example)
• Grief also includes ‘what could have been’
What else would you add?
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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This list is endless. All of these are inappropriate and you are allowed to shut the conversation down by simply saying, “that’s not something we discuss” or “this isn’t the place to talk about this”.
Other peoples projections on your reality are not yours to carry, ever. Protect your heart.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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I was once, like everyone else, excited about starting a family. Then, slowly and all at once, I fell behind. I didn’t fit, it wasn’t happening and that sits on my chest every day.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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The phrase “moving on” suggests that there’s a point where we leave grief behind, and return to how things were before. But that’s not how grief works.
Moving forward means that our grief has space and room to live alongside our lives. It exists as a part of our story, as a part of us. It is not something to overcome, it is something we integrate.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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Repeat after me!
If I say no to holiday festivities this year, please don’t make me feel worse than I already do for having to protect myself.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
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The costume parties with bobbing for apples, children excitedly dashing door-to-door trick-or-treating, pumpkin carving, and
the adorable little costumes. I want to participate, but now I feel like I’m the witch leaving a bucket of candy on the front step and turning the lights out early because I can’t handle another year of seeing all these happy families. This feels like a cruel trick.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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The impact on mental health during infertility can include not only anxiety and depression, but loss, grief, isolation, numbness and loss of self.
Each person has a unique journey and will be affected in different ways.
Infertility is complex trauma, many people do not regard it as such and so we get stuck in a cycle of isolation, guilt and shame. This is not your fault, you did nothing wrong and you deserve support as you process your trauma and grief.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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For many struggling with infertility, birthdays are a reminder of the passing of time; while others’ families increase in number through the years as pregnancies are announced and children are born, ours remain stagnant.
We are reminded that we once believed that one day we would experience this with our children too. We are reminded of how much we want to grow older as a mom. We are reminded of what we lack and long to give.
Birthdays can become less “happy birthday” and more a painful reminder of how fast time is moving and we’re still “stuck”, with a broken heart.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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It is completely normal for you and your partner to struggle during infertility. The stress and grief is heavy and each person has their own needs and emotions.
Here are some bridging questions to ask when you and your partner disagree during infertility …
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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Nothing can really prepare you for infertility..
- How do I grieve alone and
with my partner?
- How do I tell my family?
- When do we ask for a 2nd opinion? Why are we told to wait a year or x losses until we get help?
- How do we plan financially?
What else has weighed heavy?
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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Infertility is so personal. My personal struggle has not only made me question my worth, my purpose, and well, everything. But everyone judges it, judges how I act, how I’m coping, how I’m grieving and, ultimately, that means they’re judging me, as a person ... and the worst part, I didn’t choose any of this.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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“I’m not sure anything has messed with my head more than when I needed support and they met me with, “we’re grieving too”. Other people making my infertility about them makes me feel so invalidated, alone and shamed,”
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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Naming the secondary losses gives you a roadmap of what you can expect to feel tender, and where extra care/ attention may be needed.
* What has changed in your life since infertility?
* Write down anything that feels different, whether it’s something practical, like managing responsibilities, or emotional, like the way you see yourself.
* What parts of your life feel disjointed or missing?
* Where do you feel the loss most in your daily routine, your relationships, or your sense of self?
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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Instead of apologizing try thank you. Honor yourself and your needs during this difficult time. You have nothing to be sorry for, you’re on a very difficult journey.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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When you feel guilty for ....
Being angry about other people who can enjoy their pregnancy, or who announce their pregnancy without fear, and don’t know the anxiety of pregnancy after infertility or loss........
This is a normal grief reaction. It is okay to feel this way. You are heartbroken.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
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Infertility changes so much … we often don’t stop to process because we are just trying to survive and get through the next step. You deserve time to process and acknowledgment of all that has been lost and changed in your life. This is as hard as it feels.
What else would you add?
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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Infertility makes me feel plucked out of the regular human race. I feel so separate, different and not understood. Waking up each day not knowing if this is going to happen or if I’ll ever fit in again is earth-shattering, the pain is unimaginable.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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Trying to keep myself together and engaged when my friends annf siblings are talking about their pregnancies and kids, while I’ve been trying for years is brutal.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
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When grief is not allowed, the next natural response is anger. When anger is not allowed, our body braces and contracts. Tension, suppression, disconnection and freeze gradually replace connection, safety and authenticity.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
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Family, friends, acquaintances and strangers will likely all have different responses to your infertility. How may these hypothetical responses affect you?
* Some people find it difficult to talk about it and change the subject.
* Someone avoids talking to you now.
* Someone expects you to feel better and move on before you’re ready.
* Someone says, “Aren’t you over that yet? Everyone has problems.”
How others respond and hold our pain directly impacts how we heal. Someone’s inability to sit in your pain is never about you. How have these felt for you?
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
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Instead of labeling your emotions as problems to solve, you can see them as signals to interpret.
Instead of judging your emotions as shame, you can explore your heart.
Adding self-compassion is the first place to start.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
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Mental health is much more than what we see on the surface.
Research has shown that women with infertility have the same anxiety and depression levels as women with cancer, heart disease and HIV. Many societies do not understand that infertility is a disease, so couples are blamed for their condition.
Infertility greatly impacts your mental health, it’s critical to find support who understands and can help you process.
You deserve it.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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I’ve lost a lot during infertility, but losing myself has been catastrophic.
Loss of identity is not spoken about enough in this community or during our journey. It is completely normal to lose yourself while struggling with infertility and loss. And it is so important to find support who understands to help you process.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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“I was sitting there watching my grandparents’ joyful faces playing with my siblings’ kids and rocking the new baby. All I could think was ... time is running out. And my god did my heart ache.”
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
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Reasons it may feel like your grief has been forgotten …
Most people want to fix your grief … they will not be able to sit in, understand or support you the way you truly need. Your infertility and loss is not a burden, your grief is not something you can get over, your smile does not mean you’re OK, your feelings of isolation make sense when no one can understand. It’s important to remember other people’s inability to show up is never about you.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
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I wiped, there was blood … I didn’t know it then, but life would catapult into the most earth-shattering journey.
Nothing would ever be the same.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
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“GRIEVING AT WORK”...
We often do not fully share our struggle with management and coworkers.
This can create isolation and increase anxiety.
You may:
-Put on a brave face and pretend you’re okay.
-Smile and nod as others share pregnancy or child related topics.
- Hide in bathroom to cry or breathe.
- Eat lunch alone to avoid triggers.
It is important to explore boundaries and protect your heart. We spend so much time at work, you deserve to feel safe.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
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Did you know?
Your brain tells you “stories”, I’m talking about narratives your brain creates to make sense of your experiences, especially when triggered.
This can be very helpful to survive and cope. In sessions I work with you to unpack these narratives and process your thoughts & patterns around them. You deserve safe space to share your honest and raw thoughts and feelings.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
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Every show, every commercial, every event, every holiday, every social space = families, babies and kids.
Now imagine it isn’t working, you can’t have kids, and your babies are in heaven… the anxiety, the isolation, the numbness, the pure devastation in every one of these moments on repeat.
If someone cannot understand why you’re grieving so long, tells you to be thankful for what you do have, tells you to move on…
Ask them to imagine sitting in this for a day, a month, a year, 2 years, 5 years, 8 years …
Now ask them … How would they be okay?
How would they feel about having to sacrifice their mental health to make others comfortable?
How would they deal with friends and family disappearing when they needed them most?
How would they escape something the world spins on?
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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“Asking, “Have you tried (fill in the blank)?” or “Have you considered adoption?” implies that I’m not trying hard enough to find a solution or that what I’ve tried already is inadequate. Believe me, I’ve thought of it all.”
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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Remember
- State your boundaries simply, without overexplaining.
- Boundaries are not meant to control others’ behavior. They are a statement of your limits.
- Boundaries are how you “love yourself + others at the same time”.
- Be ready to endure the discomfort when you set the boundary so that you don’t set a pattern of backsliding on your boundaries.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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Planning for unexpected grief triggers. It’s not possible to anticipate every trigger.
Here are some things to keep in mind …
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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Loss rearranges our world, it knocks us off our feet, and we’re often not prepared for the deep emotions we feel.
These are some of the thoughts/feelings I hear often from clients. You aren’t alone if you have these thoughts.
Please remember you are allowed to grieve however you want, for however long you need … there is no timeline for the loss of your baby(ies). Honestly, you will likely grieve forever. Time does not eliminate the hurt. You deserve space to grieve and process, be gentle with yourself.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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There are so many phases of Infertility grief
(Grief is not linear).
What else would you add?
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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Everyone else is safely at home in the comfort of what’s known. Going about their lives.
I’m left disoriented. Exhausted.
Unsure of what to do next.
People expect me to move on. To be OK.
But I have never been so heartbroken.
I have never felt so lost.
The griet, it’s so heavy.
I have never felt more alone.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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“I sat around the dining room table numb as they discussed how exhausting parenting is, announced another pregnancy, threw subtle shade at us for having “freedom” to do whatever we want. And I finally realized our lives and the way my family once felt was not the same. They had no shame of sharing while having zero consideration for how we may feel. And that is heartbreaking.”
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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It’s near impossible to pretend away major life milestones when everyone around you is talking about them, living them. And layer on top of that a pervasive societal insensitivity about what’s involved in recovering from such an earth-shattering experience.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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Infertility is a disease, hope fades and patience does not cure this. It is OK to feel however you feel. Don’t let anyone make you feel it isn’t. All your feelings are valid, and you don’t need to feel anything but exactly how you do.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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Taking back your power inside infertility …
There is such a loss of control inside infertility. It’s so important to explore how to put yourself and your needs first.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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Often, when we discover we are having trouble getting or staying pregnant, we share with those closest to us. This is often met with toxic positivity, dismissing or minimization.
As our struggle and loss persists over time, we begin feeling deep sorrow, shame, guilt, isolation, emotional numbness or hopelessness.
Relationships can become very hard to navigate for several reasons. This is devastating and normal.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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Repeat after me!
We live in a society that idolizes motherhood. That leaves those who struggle with infertility lost, isolated, shamed, and desperate to become a mom, because the alternative means never being fully accepted.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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“You should be thankful for what you do have.”
I do not need to be thankful for what broke me, gave me anxiety, depressed me, caused issues with my partner, drained my bank account, and isolated me from the rest of the world.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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If you are not OK ...
If this is all too much ...
If you don’t know if you can keep doing this …
It is OK to take a break, it is OK to pause, it is OK to pivot, it is OK to stop.
It is OK to do what is best for you.
You do not ever need to push through, to break yourself and your spirit, you do not need to keep going if you are not okay. You matter most.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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This has likely changed you; you’re likely a new person navigating the unknown & unpredictable.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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I was pregnant and then I wasn’t.
That will haunt me forever.
Everyone’s story is unique and everyone deserves space to process, grieve and honor their babies.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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It is not up to you to sacrifice your mental health to make others feel comfortable while you’re struggling.
I see you. I hear you. I believe you.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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Repeat after me!
I’ve sat in my grief long enough to never defend my choices or how I am coping, ever again. The sacrifice of my mental and physical health during infertility and loss is not up for discussion. End of story.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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“As a mom …”
My love and empathy is not less than yours because you have living children.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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You may grieve the way you wish your life had gone, the life you might have had if things had gone “as planned” and the many losses you’ve endured on your journey.
Coping with the pain, trauma and heartache of infertility is hard, especially when it’s accompanied by loneliness and a feeling that no one understands.
This is normal and this deep grief needs and deserves to be held and acknowledged, it’s devastating.
Do you grieve what you thought life would look like?
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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Fight, flight or freeze are the three most basic stress responses. They reflect how your body will react to danger. In the case of infertility, the danger your nervous system is trying to protect you from is your traumatic experiences. Fawn is the fourth stress response.
The fight response is your body’s way of facing any perceived threat aggressively. Flight means your body urges you to run from danger. Freeze is your body’s inability to move or act against a threat. Fawn is your body’s stress response to trying to please someone to avoid conflict.
When we are highly stressed, anxious or have unresolved trauma our window of tolerance can get very narrow. The W.O.T. is pretty much a bandwidth. When we are tired, not taking good care of ourselves, are over-stressed, triggered or traumatised then our window of tolerance becomes narrower and narrower.
Unfortunately, there are detrimental effects of the chronic trauma and stress of infertility. Learning to regulate, practise self-compassion and soothe your nervous system is so important during this journey.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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Ways to be kind to yourself while grieving …
Do you struggle with this?
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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On top of that, we deal with shame, grief, loss and pain that is often NOT understood.
In fact, we are often confronted with negative, cruel and judgmental comments.
This is never about you.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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The loss of relationships with friends & family members because they can’t understand what I am going through & expect more than I can give is breaking my heart.
Does this resonate with you?
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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“I feel depressed and purposeless. The last years of my life have been so hyper-focused on conceiving, that I’ve struggled to be present and enjoy life in that time. What if it doesn’t happen? Is traveling and career going to be enough?”
Does this resonate with you?
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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Trauma often pushes us to believe that our empathy and kindness should be sacrificed to maintain a connection regardless of disrespect.
Your empathy and struggle deserve boundaries. You must choose yourself first during infertility and loss.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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For anyone who is a people-pleaser, here is your permission to say “no”.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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Many marriages and partnerships experience resentment and tension inside of infertility and loss.
Even committed and adoring relationships become strained. It’s 100% okay to feel alone and hurt about having to endure the “physical body” part of this and that you wish they’d show or share their emotions more.
It’s important to remember that every person grieves and processes in their own way. It’s important to find support separately and together, this can all be too much and that is okay.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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Infertility is complex trauma & grief. It's different from normal grief in that it persists over time, often leading to feelings of deep sorrow, emotional numbness or hopelessness.
For those going through infertility, complex grief can be extremely difficult to navigate for several reasons.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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Repeat after me!
What a privileged it is to judge a pain you’ve never endured. To minimize a heartbreak that can’t be fixed. To project your uncomfortable feelings because you will not put yourself in my shoes. What a privilege it is to not know how you’ll survive an earth-shattering loss and dismiss it, unless it’s relatable to you.
For anyone who has felt dismissed, minimized, alone, unseen, unheard and completely heartbroken that loved ones and friends cannot show up like you need. I see you, this is so hard. You aren’t alone in these feelings and you deserve support who will sit in your pain.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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“They’re packing lunches and posting first day photos … I’m still on the outside sipping coffee in my office that’s supposed to be our kid’s room, calculating how old our kids would’ve been this year.”
No matter how you fill in these blanks to fit your situation, it hurts. It really hurts.
I see you. I hear you. I believe you.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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Endless tests, prods, and treatments and little by little life becomes all about overcoming infertility ...
Have you felt this way on your journey?
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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A family of two is still a family. Family is defined by love, not head count. Don’t let anyone convince you otherwise.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
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There are many surprising benefits to crying. I always encourage clients to fully feel however they feel. There is no shame in crying … let it flow. 💜
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If you feel like you’ll never have the kind of optimism that some people have that anything is possible, that it will all work out in the end. You aren’t alone in this feeling.
That is stolen from us during infertility. There are many ways to work back to feeling safe and attempting to be hopeful.
But there is no need to feel anything but exactly what you feel right now. Be gentle with yourself. 💜
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I hope every time you hear “mom” or “dad”and your arms are full of a beating heart and precious soul, you are so thankful.
This is not meant to exclude those going through secondary infertility or anyone who has had a traumatic loss of their baby. Everyone on this awful journey is welcome here.
I see you. I hear you. I believe you.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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“Do you have kids?”
Any version of this go-to question makes me want to crawl in a hole. I started saying, “I can’t have kids” or “they’re in heaven” and the way they squirm confirms how truly uncomfortable the world is with my reality.
How does this question make you feel? Share below 📣
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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Setting boundaries is extremely important during infertility and loss. It isn’t always easy. Not everyone may like or understand your boundaries or your reasons for setting them. But if you don’t set those boundaries, you certainly can’t expect them to be followed.
And always remember, you are not responsible for how people react to that, accept that or for making anyone else happy. Choose yourself, protect your heart.
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Infertility impacts every area of your life, you need support while you grieve. I’m always here to listen, validate and support you no matter where you are on your journey. You don’t have to go through this alone. When you’re ready, let’s meet for a 20 min complimentary session.
www.griefnova.com
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